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February 27, 2010

If you’re a reader here and you know all kinds of bad things that can happen to a person under chemo, will you kindly not post them in my comments, please? Don’t e-mail them to me either.

I have enough to worry about and also, you can pretty much rest assured that I already know what horrible things can possibly happen to me. I don’t want to think about them or deal with them unless I absolutely have to.

It’s just not helpful. It’s actually pretty damned stupid.

Cancer has not made me bite my tongue. But I’m sure it’s a matter of time before chemo makes my tongue fall off. Right?

15 Comments leave one →
  1. justwriteit permalink
    February 27, 2010 11:04 pm

    Amen to that!

  2. February 27, 2010 11:07 pm

    God whoever would say that needs to have my foot shoved up their yahoo. What a stupid thing for someone to say to you.

  3. Leslie permalink
    February 27, 2010 11:47 pm

    I was thinking the same thing when I read that comment … clueless.

    I do have something to say, though. I have a good friend who went through breast cancer … mastectomy, chemo, radiation, etc. etc. and aside from the fact that she is doing very well now, about seven years later, her hair came back so beautiful and curly and shiny, I was in awe. I never wanted to be insensitive enough to say that the amazing hair must have made all of it worthwhile, but I kind of did think it a few times …

  4. February 28, 2010 12:02 am

    yow, glad to hear you’re bearing up. I don’t have much to share today except that my mom (the one who attends my adult ed. classes at local college) shattered her ankle Friday. She’s getting the op on Sunday and her MAIN concern is that she can do her part in the local community theater production she’s in that opens in 2 weeks. Oh, and that she’s missing the last day of my class. I said DON’T WORRY I CAN HOMESCHOOL YOU.

  5. February 28, 2010 3:37 am

    Oddly enough, I only know stories of people with breast cancer who survived long term and/or went through the chemo without missing a day of work. All went on to live long lives, although some of them are gone now due to old age, nothing to do with the cancer. And to echo Leslie’s comment, my mother had horrible hair all her life — thin, limp — and didn’t lose it all to chemo, it just thinned more, but when it came back it was gorgeous: thick, full of body, beautiful color. (Which was mostly still black at 80.)

  6. February 28, 2010 7:32 am

    What if I’m a reader here and I know all kinds of bad things that can happen with Velveeta? Do you want me to refrain from telling you, or are you able to deal with the concept of a Velveeta fountain?

    Warmed up Velveeta, flowing down in tiers, surrounded by corn chips and L’il Smokies.

  7. February 28, 2010 8:48 am

    Just the same as the horror stories told to pregnant women about labor. I’m sure what will happen to you is that you will get tons of support from us, your readers, and lots of visits, love and food from people who are there living near you. I would bring you dinner if I could, along with dessert. Hang in there!

  8. Gretchen permalink
    February 28, 2010 9:42 am

    Oh jeez, how insensitive! All I know about chemo is the people I know who have had it lately have many fewer and much less severe side effects than what you used to hear. I’m betting on that for you.

  9. February 28, 2010 10:30 am

    Good things about chemo:

    1. You might get better hair. I did.

    2. If you sit in a room full of people while receiving chemo, you will likely find an inspiring and powerful community you won’t find anywhere else.

    3. Chemo is trying to kill your cancer. How can that *not* be good?

    4. People who know you are getting chemo can be so nice and loving, and if you’re really lucky, you’ll get free food out of it. My most dramatic emotional moments during cancer came from the kindness of others.

    5. You’ll forever have the greatest excuse for lapses in memory once chemo is done — “chemo brain.”

    I could go on, but I’ll stop there.

    Be well!


  10. Beth permalink
    February 28, 2010 11:56 am

    I’ve heard chemo makes you skinny and gives you great hair – thick, lush and the perfect color. That is my wish for you!! (As well as perfect health of course!!)

  11. February 28, 2010 12:02 pm

    Yeah, that really is stupid. Because the only thing that happened to me from chemo (aside from losing my rotten hair, of course) was that I was very sleepy. That is a condition you can treat very easily.

  12. February 28, 2010 12:59 pm

    Like Beanie said, it’s just like the stories they tell pregnant women. I remember once before I had my first, someone actually trapped me in an elevator and told me so many horrible stories that I was sick to my stomach when I got out. And none of them happened to me.

    I am sorry that you ran into a moron. I will tell you that of the half dozen women I know who’ve done chemo in the last few years, none have had worse than a lot of tiredness. I am holding the thought for shiny beautiful new hair for you. And even though I don’t comment often, know that I’m thinking of you every single day.

  13. Claudia permalink
    February 28, 2010 2:29 pm

    Velveeta fountain?? OMG food porn!

  14. March 1, 2010 12:27 am

    We could all roll around in Velveeta together.

  15. March 1, 2010 5:18 am

    Our cousin Kathy was out erecting a chain link fence the day after her first chemo.
    Kathy’s are made of tuff stuff apparently! 🙂

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